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GREY MATTERS: Should There Be A National 17c��IA+ ‘In Memoriam’ Website?

Peter Benn — Fri, 20 Mar 2026 03:38:13 +0000

The online daddies dating profile shared some unexpected news… “Dear friends of Jonathan, I inform you that my much loved partner has died peacefully after a long illness. He is ...

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GREY MATTERS: All Sizzle No Shade

Peter Benn — Wed, 21 Jan 2026 06:10:17 +0000

Surfing the internet recently, I discovered Gay Sausage Sizzle in New Zealand – billed as Gisborne‘s “premier gay nightclub, where dance, music, and inclusivity come together.” No actual sausages, though! ...

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GREY MATTERS: At The End of 2025, Here’s Our Quarter Century Gay Report Card

Peter Benn — Mon, 15 Dec 2025 05:45:22 +0000

Now that we’ve reached the end of the first quarter of this century, how does the gay report card look? In 2000, just three years had passed since Tasmania decriminalised ...

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GREY MATTERS: Venturing Out

Peter Benn — Mon, 13 Oct 2025 00:35:51 +0000

Venturing Out is the October edition from our fabulous monthly Grey Matters column, by Peter Benn. We older gay men venture out of our homes for: 1) necessities like food ...

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GREY MATTERS: An Ode To The Beauty & Dedication of Gay Bookshops

Peter Benn — Fri, 04 Jul 2025 07:07:09 +0000

An Ode To The Beauty & Dedication of Gay Bookshops is the June edition from our fabulous monthly Grey Matters column, by Peter Benn. With the death of American gay ...

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GREY MATTERS: Embracing Sexual Freedoms

Peter Benn — Fri, 06 Jun 2025 06:41:36 +0000

In this month’s Grey Matters column, Peter Benn discusses the nuances of sexual freedoms in the era of same-sex marriage. Same-sex divorce is now happening. And what I hear is ...

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GREY MATTERS: Sex Ed for Everyone

Peter Benn — Sun, 04 May 2025 01:28:16 +0000

‘Sex Ed for Everyone’ is the May edition of the monthly column Grey Matters. As a generation, we have failed our young people when it comes to gay sex education. Our generation had ...

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GREY MATTERS: The Deep Importance of Vintage Photos

Peter Benn — Tue, 11 Mar 2025 06:14:47 +0000

I’m intrigued by the B&W or sepia vintage photos of males together in various states of clothed affection. They indicate that male bonding has been around always — at least ...

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GREY MATTERS: Today’s Older Gay Man

Peter Benn — Tue, 10 Dec 2024 06:23:46 +0000

This is my 50th Grey Matters column. Being nearly 25 years into this new century, I think it’s doubly time for a snapshot of today’s older gay man, and our ...

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GREY MATTERS: National Coming Out Day, and What It’s Like Being Outed

Peter Benn — Thu, 10 Oct 2024 23:54:13 +0000

In this month’s Grey Matters column, Peter Benn discusses National Coming Out Day, as well as the nuances of coming out and his lived experience of being outed. My coming ...

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GREY MATTERS: In Praise of Gay Newspapers

Peter Benn — Fri, 12 Jul 2024 00:55:58 +0000

Is it a stretch to say gay newspapers were a mini forerunner to today’s internet? Check these similarities… News Old editions are time capsules with headlines telling big stories – ...

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Gay Dating Apps Are For Everyone

Peter Benn — Tue, 30 Jan 2024 05:51:08 +0000

Recently, my dating/sexual experiences have segued into areas I’ve not previously experienced – and they all reflected the sexual loneliness of city-based men in their early 50s. The first man ...

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Memories Of Christmases Past

Peter Benn — Wed, 13 Dec 2023 08:47:59 +0000

It’s Christmas again, and I’m reflecting on my Christmases past. ‘The Isolated One’ ‘The Isolated One’ – Christmas Day in Dublin 2004 while waiting to depart on a tour the ...

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Gender Diversity At The Gay Sauna

Peter Benn — Thu, 02 Nov 2023 11:44:54 +0000

It was a surprise that the first naked body I saw as I entered the gay sauna was female and not a gay male. It was an ‘open’ night for ...

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Grieving After The Death Of A Sexual Partner

Peter Benn — Thu, 19 Oct 2023 23:38:59 +0000

Nearly twelve months after his death, a casual sexual partner’s dating profile still has his enticing photos smiling back at me from the internet. Clive’s death has only recently become ...

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Beware Of Scammers

Peter Benn — Tue, 12 Sep 2023 13:00:58 +0000

Scamming attacks are definitely becoming more prevalent. Recent weeks have seen both myself and my friends the target of multiple scams, with increasing variety, sophistication and frequency. These include mobile ...

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Media Is Ignoring Our History

Peter Benn — Mon, 07 Aug 2023 11:41:57 +0000

It’s my observation that mainstream Australian newspapers are doing mature-age gay men a great disservice in not reporting the deaths of iconic gay heroes from our earlier years. It would ...

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Make Gay Saunas More Social for Seniors

Peter Benn — Wed, 19 Jul 2023 07:39:34 +0000

Gay saunas operate some terrific themed nights, though no Australian sauna seemingly offers afternoon-themed events for gay and bi Seniors. Yet that’s when we, the retired older men, are available. ...

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Dr Charles Silverstein: Joy Of Gay Sex Author Dies Aged 87

Peter Benn — Tue, 04 Apr 2023 08:27:05 +0000

We recently lost one of the great pioneers of the modern gay movement. Dr. Charles Silverstein (April 23, 1935 – January 30, 2023), who died aged 87, was the co-author ...

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Note To My Younger Gay Self During Pride Month

Peter Benn — Mon, 13 Feb 2023 23:22:58 +0000

It was April 1968, and as an awkward young adult not long in the city from my rural upbringing, I was having an employment interview for a foot-in-the-door office job. ...

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GREY MATTERS: Should There Be A National 17c�������IA+ ‘In Memoriam’ Website?